One of the things most frequently asked for and yet one seldom made use of, is advice. Ninety-nine times out of a hundred the woman who comes to you for advice as a matter of fact really wants to have her own opinion confirmed.
Do not go around with a pocket full of advice offering it to everyone. If you advise a woman to change her habits or manner of life she will resent your proffered aid. The best way to give advice is to take another lady for example and hit your friend through the illustration of the other lady. Let her discover the point herself rather than let it appear that you are telling her the thing.
The matter of advice is a very hard thing to properly understand. You advise another to do a certain thing, forgetting in the meanwhile, that if you were in her position your view-point would be her and not your own. You play your strong qualities against her weak ones.
It is easy enough for you to advise a drunkard not to drink, but difficult for you to understand her view point on the subject if you are not a drinking woman yourself.
Giving advice usually comes about because we see a weakness in others. The opposite of this weakness is a feature in our own make-up.
The business woman who is constantly asking advice is advertising the fact of her uncertainty of her own actions. Your great problems must be decided by yourself.
The one thing that separates the sheep from the goats, and success from failure, is the ability to analyze, study and weigh problems for yourself, and to make decisions for yourself.
The law of compensation comes in here again, for in proportion as you have self-reliance and good judgment your success will be measured.
You may rely upon it that if you go about seeking advice, you will get two kinds of advice-First: the advice that concurs with your own preference or decision; and, second, the kind that is in opposition to your views.
You accept the first kind because it tickles your vanity, and you throw aside the second, saying the advice is prejudiced.
Don't ask advice. Size up and weigh the problem yourself and use your own best judgment.
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